2 March 2011

20 Questions to Deepen Communications

Much conversation is startlingly mundane, especially those between husband and wives. The kids. The church. Work. Perhaps even gossip sometimes.

To deepen communications is to deepen relationships. With spouses. Friends. Church members. The following list offers some suggestions for deeper conversations and better understandings. They may be used between spouses or in your small groups.

1. Tell me about the most influential person in your life.

2. What book(s) influence you the most?

3. What are your goals in life? Or, what are your most important goals over the next 5 years?

4. How were you converted?

5. If there is a fire in your home, and you had time to rescue one item, what would that be?

6. If you could live life all over again, what would you do differently?

7. If you had just one week to live, what would you do? How would you spend that week?

8. What was the most embarrassing moment of your life?

9. Describe an ideal day of your ideal vacation.

10. Tell me about a turning point in your life.

11. If you had just one memory to keep what would that be?

12. Tell me about the happiest period of your life.

13. Of all the demands in your life, what do you consider to be the most significant schedule in your week?

14. What do you consider your strength and weaknesses to be?

15. Tell me about your most favourite hobby.

16. What do you enjoy most about your work? What’s your greatest challenge?

17. Tell me about your favourite book (or character) in the Bible.

18. Tell me about your happiest recollection as a child.

19. How would you remember your parents as?

20. What’s your 3 most fulfilling accomplishments?

Additional questions for further communications:
21. If there were to be a verse, or metaphor/picture, that can symbolized your life purpose, what would that be?

22. Share an unhappy incident that you encountered.

23. Share 1 struggle that your small group members can pray for you.

24. If you can ask God for 3 things to change/be given to you, what would it be?

25. What will make you most happy?

These are good conversation starters. There are no right or wrong answers. The only correct answer is when a deeper understanding is being developed. Pray for each other as you listen.

(Source: from CEFC Bulletin Heartbeat in the 1990s)


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